Quote: Rose, it would be interesting to map or keep track of his "Uh-oh, better get cranking." is it you motivatiing him or is it his monthly cycle, mine is monthly right now.
At the risk of having darts thrown at me I will say that I do keep track. For me it's more a matter of how many nights I've wondered what the hell was wrong with me, then cried myself to sleep. After one of those nights I'm not my best the next morning. For a while I can shake it off, but as it goes on, the lousier I feel, the crankier I get till I'm a real *&^%$. Then, it seems, the H gets it into gear.
Quote: Also have you listen or read Mars/Venus it may help.
I did, during my first marriage. I understand Gray's theories, but didn't find them helpful. Right now, I'm reading the 5 Love Languages and also a series of books by Barry & Emily McCarthy. The McCarthy books I'm finding very helpful.
I also picked up Michele's book Getting Through to the Man You Love. From this one, I've learned to always wait till he's done at the PC before I talk to him about anything serious.
I will say that I do keep track. For me it's more a matter of how many nights I've wondered what the hell was wrong with me, then cried myself to sleep. After one of those nights I'm not my best the next morning. For a while I can shake it off, but as it goes on, the lousier I feel, the crankier I get till I'm a real *&^%$. Then, it seems, the H gets it into gear.
