Quote: Rose I am LD, xw was HD, somewhere in our fourties, she went to HD from and I declined into LD compared to her. I read this is one of natures cruel jokes. Which I believe in.
Hey, Poe:
I refer to myself as HD, even though once a week is fine with me and I'm not sure that qualifies as HD. (although to a LD person, I suppose it is). What's weird is that I'm 2 years post-menopausal and I'd always read that desire levels in women are supposed to plummet. Well, that just isn't the case with me (and I'm not on any HRT). My level is higher than ever.
Quote: You mention he fulfils your other needs, so I guess your love tank is normally full.
Yep, despite the high cost of fuel that part of the tank is normally full.
Quote: One thing that made it worse is. XW wanted to sex a lot longer than I could deliver, she mentioned her girlfreind and her H made love 2 1/2 hours. So in my case I avoided it even more, because I felt I was not delivering.
I don't know the solution, just something to think about.
Duration is not a problem. When we do make love, the duration is just right: not too long and not too short. It's getting to that point. It's also very demoralizing to hear my H say there's nothing I can do to give him pleasure.
I came right out and asked him is he didn't enjoy the act of making love. I mean if nothing gives him pleasure does he just look at it like another job? He told me he did enjoy it. So, I'm getting mixed signals, which is what finally led me to call for a C session.
Another thing that gets me upset is that he seems to get 'interested' at exactly the point when it seems I've reached my limit. When I start getting edgy, cranky and downright b****y it's like the light goes on and he thinks, "Uh-oh, better get cranking."
I guess it would make things better if I didn't have any interest in him sexually, but that's just not the case.
that part of the tank is normally full. 
