Don't know how I didn't see this yesterday! Sorry!
First, I think you have no choice now but to get a lawyer. Mediation MAY be the best thing for you to do, but you can't commit to anything until you know your options. As far as moving things forward, you don't have to do a thing right now (other than get a lawyer, did I mention that?) Once H does something, you and your lawyer figure out the best response. Whatever you do, don't agree to anything, don't sign anything, without a lawyer! I don't trust your H as far as I can throw him, and I don't think I could even get him off the ground. He is going to be looking out for one person in this, you are going to have to look out for four.
Treese, you are not going to be lonely. You may be alone for a while, but that's not the same thing. You will have friends, lots of them, to help you get through this. And when the time is right, you will have a very special friend. You are smart, you are pretty , you are young, you are loving.... I could go on and on..... Try not to worry about that, you are going to be fine.
