I never know how H will react to anything I say or do, since he is very...inconsistent or reactionary, etc. to almost anything.
I think there are a few things that go into this. First, he is looking for reasons to be upset with you. It helps him justify his decision. A lot of times it won't matter what you say or do, he will turn it into a negative in his head. Another thing is that at some level he knows what he has done to you. And he assumes that you would react the way he would react. So he will interpret your actions that way. Hence moving furniture equals kicking him to the curb! Which is really weird, since he already said he wanted to walk to the curb. Don't try to make sense of it. At this point he either isn't really thinking, or isn't thinking like the guy you knew for years. You can validate his feelings, but there's no point in having to have a rational discussion about them.
From what little I know about clubfitting, I think that men's graphite might be just the thing for you. You might not be tall, but you are certainly on the taller end of what the women's standard clubs are designed for, and just barely on the short end of the men's standard, I'd expect. I'm wondering if they should flatten the lies just a hair for you? Might even get rid of the pull. The hybrids should be great for you! I got tired of seeing the prices for clubs, and decided to assemble my own. I can't do the fancy stuff, like adjust lies, since I don't have the tools, but I can cut the shafts and stick on the heads and grips. I can also change the lengths that way... though I have ended up pretty standard. It shouldn't be hard to get them to shorten your new clubs a little, if you wanted to!
Anyway, keep working on your detachment (it sounds like you are making progress). It doesn't mean you don't care, but it does mean you don't let what he does mess with your emotions. No R talk, no expectations, etc. And really, take care of yourself! Maybe you can hit the range in the evening now and then, and use some of those hours that are so long? Be the person you really want to be.... not what you think he wants, he'll see through that. But if there are things you've always wanted to improved, it is a perfect time to do it!
