Guys, I was a near WAW. H operates from a place of being victimized and denied in our M. However, his behavior was neglectful and hurtful to me and our M. Before you go and blame your WAS for your behavior, think again. Rewriting seems to be contagious.
Yes, some Rs are unhealthy. If both people can see that and work on their parts, there can be evolution in the R.
As for those who have been left behind and do not feel that the M is anything but a piece of paper...do what you please...IMO.
If you are living in your home with someone and are attempting to DB, I think you should keep it in your pants and work on yourselves.
