No advice, just some support! Good job with the stop of pursuit. I'm proud of you. Since I started db'ing in late November, I've kept my contact w/H (he works out of town during the week) limited to once/day (initiated by me), which is WAY down from what it was. He contacts me, and sometimes I answer right away, and sometimes I wait. I'm always pleasant, upbeat, and friendly, but VERY busy. When I do answer, it's a "Hey! What's Up? I'm blahblahblah right now. Do you need something now, or can we talk a bit later?" kind of approach. It's been really helpful, and we're peaceful, and raising the kids in a "nice" environment, HOWEVER, it's only been minimally effective in drawing him to me. I think I'll start to back off, maybe another level or two, as well. It appears to be working with you, and with another poster, Sam.
Just some support... Your name caught my eye. We have a Joshua. He's darling!
PS - Gucci, Puppy and Sandi2 are giving you great advice.
Last edited by mindblank; 07/03/0901:33 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
