i've been doing a ton of reading on passive agressive behavior today, and feel i have a bit of it, and rather my W has the huge majority of it. actually, PA's are attracted to codependents and i think we ended up rubbing off on each other over the years.
Yes...good, that was what I was trying to tell you. I forgot to use the term "passive agreesive" but that is exactly right in this case with the two of you. Find out as much information as you can on the subject.
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should i wait for her to contact? probably yes. i do want to thank her for bringing our shih-tzu home.
Until you break that habit of constantly making contacts with her....you will "always" find an excuse. The dog seems like a legimate reason to call, doesn't it? I mean you want her to know you really appreciate it. Never-the-less.......DON'T CALL. There will always be something you could think of to contact her. It is not necessary. Each time you call, it causes a reaction from her and first thing you know.....it goes down that same old path, and that is what you want to avoid. So, stop now, today......don't call and thank her, leave it alone.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
but that is exactly right in this case with the two of you. Find out as much information as you can on the subject.