Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

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Congrats on breaking your record. It is a big deal - be proud of yourself.

I'm not sure I agree with the MC on the shite or get off the pot thing. Prematurely pressing for 'change' can often yield unwanted results. I try not to give advice in matters like this. I always maintain that you never know what an action will result in. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. You have to figure out what the right thing to do is, and sometimes that's not possible to do. Maybe some others can give you feedback on it. I would suggest doing nothing until you are crystal clear (or close to it) about what action to take.

You need to clarify specifically what the IC is talking about when he says 'you are carrying a lot' and how it will do damage.

On the short term memory thing - carry around one of those little notepads in your back pocket with a small pencil. Write down things you need to do or remember. Make sure you write down the information as soon as you get it and then check the pad frequently.

It amazes me how you can remember 50 things, forget one, and the only thing they focus on is the 1 thing you forgot. Nothing is ever said about the 50 things you remembered. Don't beat yourself up. Everyone forgets these things as one time or another, and I'm sure you can think of examples of when your W has done the same. Try the small pad. I think it will help a lot. I am always writing myself little notes and even tape them to my dashboard at night so I remember it when I get in the car.