Hi FG. Much like you, I struggle with the patience for DB and I've been at it for a long time now! Somehow, I just keep at it. However, there have been some improvements for me. These improvements really started when I stopped reacting to his behaviour and focussed on being positive and upbeat. I recognised and affirmed his positive actions. When my H became the 'alien' I kept reminding myself that there is no chance of having a rational conversation with someone who is irrational. I quit 'having a go back' and even defending myself.
