That all sounds good, I think its human nature to resist resist resist hey.. but seeing as you are receiving the same consistent message from all quarters its having a cumulative effect on you no doubt! I hear you blaming yourself alot in your posts, or even kicking yourself for not doing things differently, but all you really did was sort of love him alot hey, so you probably couldnt have changed things. Although from here on is, yes, time to stop mopping his fretted brow!
I'm sorry that you still find yourslef in this place, I dont know what to suggest other than.. no, dont mow his lawn/pay his bills/take up the slack with the kids (like um, buying stuff in the store the kids wanted to do with him.. let HIM go to the store and sort fun things out with his kids, if he didnt rememebr, get time to, then so be it).. better to be alluring and mysterious and NOT good old Bobbi, the one he walked out on hey. Wishing you luck with the new regime of boundary enforcing! Al xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
