AAK-

this exact dynamic is very much at play in my sitch. Only my H. "gets to me" by shutting me out and avoiding responsibility with the things we still have in common (though this has gotten better lately). Its really hard to know how to respond...without perpetuating a dynamic that was a problem in the R.

If they are all about control, only way to deal, I think, is to ignore. Let them act out but not pull our strings. Until H. is ready to receive it and act on it, I think confronting him with his behavior is futile. I think he wants to spur you into power struggle. GAL, GAL girl, GAL. I like your plan to try it for a week...come back to questions about why he is doing this after a little hiatus.


Me 30
H 33
together:10 years
married:5 years
Separated: 1/23/09
living apart 5 mos and counting
"when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR