It does matter aliveandkicking! If he was really in love with someone else, he would drop you like a hot rock! He hasn't done that!
What if as Sandi says, it is just a control issue? He is getting off on having the upper hand. He feels that I was in control in the R and he felt like sh*t about himself and now this is "payback". I'm not mind-reading, I am piecing together his words.
