AAK. I haven't checked in in awhile. OMG! A couple of questions..(Sorry for typos - on my phone and I can't see as well!)
#1 - was this man ever a good dad? #e - how is he with the kids now? Natural? Disneyland dad? #3 - has he admitted to being intimate with someone else? #4 - CA MUST have decent alimony/support laws. Have you done the homework? Tou are WAY too smart and good to be sttaying with this chaos because of money, and I can't believe his (lving in friends mansionsay lifestyle can last for long...
You are just plain too good for this f'n chump! You have yound boys that need a dad AND mom, and I can bet you're just adorable... You will move on and love, live and enjoy again. I'm not a fan of the H. He sounds like my D18 and friends. Selfish, arrogant,f'n egocentric. God! He's a H and Father! Maybe he needs a new career.
Sorry, but you are way too good.
Thanks MB.
1. & 2. yes, he was a good dad and he still is by most standards. He has a tendency to be a little antagonistic and provocative with them but overall he loves them and gives them a lot of attention.
3. Yes. I think what gets me is that many years ago, he left and cheated and then he basically ended up telling on himself and once the truth came out, we got back together and we were in not so effective therapy for a long time. I can't help but feel he is telling on himself again for a reason.
4. Funny you mentioned that because I just realized that I am really scared of all of the upheaval. I know that we cannot afford two households.
I am too good for this. I just came so close to texting him. "Forget it. I deserve better than this. I'm moving on."
Like everyone else, I want him to see how he is screwing everything up here. He is so attentive to me still. He listens and I think I fear once I cease to influence him he will really go off the deep end (like an 18 year old)...problem is the kids are right smack in the middle.
