My husband also told me I am judgmental.
This is my take on it. Projection. They are feeling so much guilt over what they have done that they anticipate how we feel about their actions. They know we don't approve, so they blame us for being judgmental.

Many, many Ml'ers are very critical, negative, depressed people. They don't like that about themselves, so they put in on others.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11