Well, I flinched already. H was so offended by my "attitude" that he said he could "be an a**hole too." And I got scared.
I clarified that the only thing I'm doing is taking care of myself and my kids. I told him he's just setting me up as the a**hole for setting boundaries.
Then it digressed or progressed depending on perspective into a convo about R and how he feels that he is getting pay back. I told him that with so much at stake and two kids in the middle wouldn't it make sense to try to work the hard feelings out so we can be in the present? He was pretty clear that there is another woman but he knows it may not be what it seems.
We talked about maybe seeing someone to try to work through this stuff and get to the truth.
I don't know. It seemed fairly productive but maybe not.
The only thing I regret is giving him my time and stroking his ego.
But, I guess I should be glad there is forward motion. Either we are going to work on R or we will be filing something. He can't handle me moving on so he will have to make a choice. He doesn't want to be shut out of here and brought up filing something as soon as I made my boundaries clear so it will be one or the other very soon.
