Newbie - first post and ?s

[Gardener]

I hate to say this but I'm thinking more and more that perhaps H and I do need to live apart. It'll hurt us financially but I can't be his emotional dumping ground for much longer. I think he's headed in that direction anyway so I will probably hold off bringing it up until he does. I knew BIL's death would either be a wake up call for H or push him further away and it's quite obvious he's fleeing.

Ash,
I am confident that you will make the right decision for your son and you at the right time in the right manner.

You sound like a much different person than you were just 2+weeks ago when you first posted. You can do it. You are doing it.