I confess that even though I am not a big newshound, I have been following the Sanford situation, and shaking my head over the classic MLC garbage that the governor is spouting. I heartily concur with what has been said on this thread so far, and have already been thinking most of it myself. Soul mate, my hind foot!
I hope Jenny Sanford finds this board. I feel sad and sorry for her and her children, as I do for nearly all of those who find themselves in the sort of position that we deal with every day on this board. She has a lot in common with many of us here, but at least most of us don't have to cope with having the national news reporting just exactly how our spouses have humiliated us, and how completely insane they have become. She is getting a lot of praise from the public for how she is dealing with all of this, and I suspect that many of us could take a lesson or two from her, even though she has not been at it very long compared to some here (well, depending on who you believe about the governor's possible past antics)...although probably it feels like a lifetime to her. She sounds to me like a woman with a lot of class and integrity, who is holding her head up and facing this horrible situation with the honor and forthrightness that her H is sadly lacking.
When I read about what the governor's reference to King David, I almost shouted at my computer, because I was thinking about the fact that David actually REPENTED of what he had done and acknowledged that it was SIN, and he needed to do some MAJOR work to get back on the right track. I think that was why God continued to use David in such a lasting and powerful way. The governor...well, I get the impression that he is giving it lip service in hopes that it will all blow over soon and somehow he can get everything he wants without actually walking through that fire. I mean...how many screws do you have to have loose in your head to not see that if you are going to be a politician who calls out other politicians for immoral behavior, you'd sure as all get out better keep your own house in order and keep your pants zipped? How stupid can you be? And to expect it not to become public knowledge how far you have wandered from the standard you held others to? Whatwereyathinking??? Oh, I see...you weren't. At all. And how long did it take you to figure out, and what are you going to do about it?
Okay, I feel better now. I know it's not my place to judge. But I am angry that more people's lives are being shattered, whether you attribute it to MLC, or insanity, or the devil, or anything else...
I am sure that God loves pond scum. I have not advanced to that level of enlightenment yet.
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
well the psycologist on CNN said MLC and then repeatedly used the term crisis and said gov Sanford needed helpm right away.
you should see H squirm while watching any news on that situation.really funny. the news anchor said Jenny Sanford was a saint for taking him back and he didnt know anyone else that would be that forgiving. H grabbed my arm raised it up and pointed to me and said " i do" with a very bizzarre look on his face.
must a been weird coming face to face with your issues on national news. I know H has always not likened himself to a MLCer. ooops....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
2Morro you gave me a good laugh with your H behavior I dont watch the tv/news so I never know whats going on I will make a point to listen for this so he went back to his wife? what happened? peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Great thread, light hearted and slightly sarcastic, just the way I love them!
Sanford is making an ass or a name for himself, as the other politicians have. It's a shame that this behavior has become the norm rather than the sin it should be.
Just FYI, these jokers actually believe their "relationship" IS different from those others who are just having affairs.... and they of course, are upstanding individuals, because they are THE knight in shining armor... choke, choke, wheez, wheez, hmmph. The don't care to see the reprocussions, or the effects on their own family, for they have to see they are saving someone in distress.... cough, cough, yuck and often other children to boot.
Waaay back when my situation started, a friend of mine also had a husband who was off in MLC land. Each man touted the mistakes of the other man, condemning them for their actions, and the destruction of their families.... Both of them, yet, neither one of them saw what THEY were doing as the same or even bad. It was weird... My friend and I couldn't believe the things we heard, which now we laugh about years later.
I guess it's not abnormal for one of these people to convince themselves or justify their actions in a way that they can live with, no matter how insane it is.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Sandford's wife is a very strong lady. She's been quoted as saying that whatever happens, whether the marriage survives or not, she'll be just fine. Her focus is on the children right now. She's got her head screwed on right and knows exactly what she's doing about her situation.
I give her a thumbs up on how she's dealing w/the situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
By all means, two thumbs up for Ms Jenny Sanford. She is amazingly strong, keeping her focus on her children, and allowing the old Gov. to swing in the wind and fend for himself. Kudos to Jenny!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
I was glad to see that Jenny Sanford did NOT stand with her H when he was announcing his A publicly. I saw a montage of clips pulled from recent news conferences that showed various politicians announcing/discussing their A's (or other sexual indiscretions) with their W's beside them, and in every case, the W looked like she was barely holding it together. How humiliating for those poor women. Good for Jenny Sanford for stepping away gracefully and letting her H swing in the wind and deal with the fallout on his own.
She is starting to get criticized some by people who are calling her a doormat or an idiot for not just accepting that it's over (the whole soulmate thing) and moving on...but I can't believe those critics have ever been through anything like this, so they really have no idea what they are talking about. I think she is doing about as well with her sitch as anyone can possibly be expected to, trying to navigate between a rock and a hard place and not get smashed on either side. Good for Jenny Sanford! She will be able to hold her head up for the way she is turning lemons into lemonade. He is going to be paying the piper for a long time.
BT, I found your story interesting. My H had a friend (about 30 years old at the time) who suddenly ditched her H of 5 years for a man almost 20 years older, who had been M for 20 years or so; they both D'd their spouses so fast it would make your head spin, and last I heard they were living together in her condo (she had refinanced to get her H off the mortgage and OM on, so there was a financial tie) and planning to get M. My H spent a lot of time rolling his eyes over his friend's insane behavior (even though he wasn't a big fan of her H) and trying to convince her she was making a big mistake. Then, less than a year after that sitch began...my H was embroiled in almost the same sitch that he had been ranting about his friend being in...adulterous A with a big age gap (younger woman, older man), financial ties with OP, spouse (that would be me) was suddenly a useless burden. Soooo many times I wanted to call him on repeating the soap-opera BS that he criticized his friend for...but, being a good little DBer, I never said a word about it. I am sure he would come up with some explanation of why his sitch is entirely different (riiiiiiight)! MLC and logic...two great tastes...that don't go together!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
How much you wanna bet that we see Sanford eventually sneaking back to his woman in Argentina.
When I saw his beautiful family, I cried.
Those boys will always remember this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
