Your example with the drugs is interesting.

You did not make that choice and you are aware of possible consequences to behavior that you do not want to involve yourself with.

I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

And there is another layer: Maybe not wanting people to do drugs is more caring than simply tolerating behavior that is likely to hurt them.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D