It works. Sandi, is this what you refer to? That's not to say my marriage is great - in fact it is horrendous, but the sexual side for us has always been good.
Yep! You got it.
I don't think we need to share fantasies if they do not include our spouse.....and "they" (people who say they know... ) all say that it is normal for us to fantasize about other people other than our S. However, if we shared that information, it may be a good way to get into a heap of trouble. I wouldn't want to know about my H trying to think I was another woman......or even what his fantasies about some OW may be. After all we went through with my EA, I am not going to discuss any fantasizing about some other guy! Are you kidding? So.....to keep things safe and everyone out of trouble....I say to fantasize about your S doing wonderful things.
Have fun!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
) all say that it is normal for us to fantasize about other people other than our S. However, if we shared that information, it may be a good way to get into a heap of trouble. I wouldn't want to know about my H trying to think I was another woman......or even what his fantasies about some OW may be. After all we went through with my EA, I am not going to discuss any fantasizing about some other guy! Are you kidding? So.....to keep things safe and everyone out of trouble....I say to fantasize about your S doing wonderful things. 
