Thank you. Actually, currently he is staying at a friend's mansion and partying with celebs etc. It has been six months of floating and traveling and living la vida loca.
So, his stuff is here but he isn't. However, he tends to make himself at home when comes by. Last time he came here, I ushered him out and he taunted me and did the butt tap and I clearly and calmly told him I have other things I need to do. I did not let him come by to see the kids on my day. I have been setting boundaries it just gets exhausting when he acts out.
I need to remember that I can handle it. Imagine, he tells me there are other women he is interested in/involved with but if he hears mention of a guy, he wigs. He is in a whole new world and doesn't want me around because it would be weird but then when I was dropping the kids off and was invited to stay by the owners of the house and politely declined (I had plans), he was upset that I refused and acted like I was irrational. He is all over the place and if I don't meet him where he is, it is my shortcoming...from his p.o.v.
When I set reasonable boundaries it is "what's wrong? are you upset? you're acting weird..."
So I just have to get very stoic very fast.
I am going to do the week and see what happens.
I should probably mention that I have been on and fallen off this wagon more than a few times now. That is why some posters have understandably disappeared.
Thank you for posting. I feel ready to step up my game.
