I hate to say this but I'm thinking more and more that perhaps H and I do need to live apart. It'll hurt us financially but I can't be his emotional dumping ground for much longer. I think he's headed in that direction anyway so I will probably hold off bringing it up until he does. I knew BIL's death would either be a wake up call for H or push him further away and it's quite obvious he's fleeing.
Tough call. But, if it were me, and my W was saying and doing things harmful to the kids, it's a no brainer. I do not envy you, but you sound like you are doing the best you can with what you have been dealt.
Hang in there. We are all going to come out of these unfortunate situations ok.
