Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

I appreciate all the responses. Sadly, my sister's dog died last night. I have 2 dogs and would have to take them with me and I don't know if her kids can handle it so I'm going to hold off going.

GIMA - I did read about finding a counselor in DR. I've been in IC in the past just not in this area. My last counselor (8 years ago) was wonderful but is about 20 hours away. I actually found her by picking a place out of the phone book (nice, huh?).

I hate to say this but I'm thinking more and more that perhaps H and I do need to live apart. It'll hurt us financially but I can't be his emotional dumping ground for much longer. I think he's headed in that direction anyway so I will probably hold off bringing it up until he does. I knew BIL's death would either be a wake up call for H or push him further away and it's quite obvious he's fleeing.