I just thought I'd stop by and say hello. Happy Belated Birthday! What did you decide to do in the end? Ice cream or no ice cream? I hope you had a big tub of ice cream and then washed it down with another- birthdays only come once a year, after all!
I like the advice about looking for some outside work yourself. I think it would help on two fronts- firstly getting you into a regular pattern of speaking to people. You seem very self-sufficient, but I know how much of a difference it makes to me to be able to go somewhere every day and see the same people (even though we barely speak). The small daily interactions can be great. Secondly (I know nothing about American healthcare), there might be insurance with a job? I have no clue about that though. No need for health insurance is a big advantage of living in England.
In relation to H, I don't have much to say- you know the drill.... MLC all the way. When he gets to the other side he probably won't remember being the way he is. I think all you can do is be a friend if he needs one and focus on you while he works his way through it. You've probably heard that a million times. Sorry
