I am looking at this form a new point of view: I dont have to "wait" till my life starts again with or without him. This IS my life and I have to do what to takes to make it a good one.
RIGHT ON SISTAH!!!!!
What did your son have a melt down over? Something specifically H related or just in general as an emotional explosion? Poor baby.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
You hit it spot on, Kalni! Your life doesn't have to depend on his. It's time to stop waiting. He can make his own choice. (OK, in his case that seems to be a bit of a problem.)
The weekend was pretty much uneventful. H came over Friday night -went home to take things and got here after 2 in the morning. His stress levels are rising day by day, he now seems to feel imprisoned by his work. He seems to be ready to break down and collapse physically and I am being polite and detached. Today while he was leaving I told him he needs to look after himself and probably get a few days off work because he looks so tired. He said he will be "doing something about it" as a long term solution. We had lunch with some friends and he told the guy friend (wing man if anynone remembers) he is leaving the night job and hopes the money will be enough. We'll see.
No affection or anything. Sat night, in bed, I told him I cant live with no hugs etc. He hugged me and it didnt feel good. Unfortunately, I can tell now, he is at a very low point in his life and I know not to expect anything from him until he sorts the work thing out first.
The party was very "posh" and I had an ok time. My D has been sick this weekend-nothing serious. My dad seems to be in pain again. I have faith things will work out. K
Hey K.. well what more can you do? You cant do it for him, but sounds like he is definetly moving closer to actually resigning! Which is good news for him, his health and definetly good for yuor childrens sake, if not also your M (???). Why didnt the hug feel good? He was doing it half heartedly or you just feel distant from him? Shame he didnt make the posh party and I hope your Dad is ok...
Love Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Congratulations on opening your passions and making them real. Your spouse is on his own journey. You have your boundaries and your growth, what's healthy and precious to you. Whoo hoo!
I'm sorry to hear that your dad is feeling uncomfortable. Yet each day, week, month, year, decade you have with him is a joy. Focus on the good, empathize on the tough and be the person you are.. the reflection of your parents years of caring and upbringing. Telling your parents that you appreciate all they've done for you is something they'd never ask for but an incredible gift.
K, Just a thought. Have you thought about selling your jewelry on etsy.com? It is a website where people who make handmade unique items sell. you can also request custom-made things (or in your case, take custom orders). That way you could take orders from all over the world! for your jewelry and your special kid paintings!
I am looking at this form a new point of view: I dont have to "wait" till my life starts again with or without him. This IS my life and I have to do what to takes to make it a good one.
I'm pretty sure FG will make a comment about this is the attitude we used to see from our "Sunshine" until the clouds came back in and covered her up.
This is the focus, outlook, and attitude that makes you you, baby! Keep this in mind and DON'T forget it! Maybe write it down somewhere so you can see it on a daily basis.
Keep going w/the jewelry too. Definitely look into the site mentioned and see if you can take the Kalni line global! Big Fun!
Hey if my current GF plays her cards right, I'll look into having you cook her up something. What do you say to that?
