If you are done, at least for now, which is kinda what detaching is...someone correct me if I am jacking this all up...then his annoying "look at me, pay attention to me" texts are just that. Annoying. You've got to get into that zen place, DESPITE, what he does.
You are so awesome! This just hit me right before I came to check my thread. For years I have tried and failed to "get into that zen place, DESPITE, what he does."
It is quite a mammoth challenge.
Last night, I pretty much decided to file for D. I was so disgusted.
But, looking back, I could have said and done nothing. I didn't have to engage my friend and spend half our time dissecting my sitch and she obviously was aghast. I mean who leaves their wife, blames it all on her, starts seeing other people, deems the R doomed to D because it is destiny and there is no way around it even if the feelings are there, attraction etc. AND then, wont leave her alone??? Ya, my friend was pretty mortified. But I did that, I handed my night over to him.
My big issue is in my head...these texts come and often I ignore but I often spin and spin searching for the signal I want to send back to H. Is it, come closer or leave me alone???
I want him to come closer but not if he will subsequently cast it in a negative light, not if he is scr*wing someone else, not if he only intends to serve himself...
Anyway, back to your paragraph, it seems this is something I must do no matter what.
