I'm going to tell you what you have told me countless times, you can't control what she does or think. That's the quickest path to feeling powerless.
Detach and work on focus on you and your kids. Become the best Stuck for you and your girls. They deserve it as well as you do.
My wife said the same thing in last nite's relationship conversation disastor. I know we can't make our wives work on the marriage nor want the marriage, but all we can do is be the best that we can be. If it creates some doubt or uncertainty, then great, if not, you need to be the best Stuck you can be for you and your girls. Regardless of the path this goes down.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13