Had an interesting conversation with my oldest son this morning.
He told me that my H told him he wasn't coming down to the lake this weekend (no surprise there - although he never verbally confirmed it with me). My son said he was really surprised by that.
He then went on to say that my H keeps asking him to hang out with him - I thought maybe we can watch a movie together, I never get to see you anymore, you're always with your girlfriend.
My son said to me - it's just weird Mom. I have my own friends. I stayed neutral. My son said what about X (his best friend) are they talking more - I thought Dad said he and X (friend's W - one who was talking to my H on the phone) were getting back together.
I had to tell him that I didn't think that was happening but the only people who know are the two of them and it's really just their business. He said what about K? Another mutual friend - he's a pretty good guy right? I just said sure he's a good guy.
I don't think my oldest son realized that my younger son and I were not just going to be gone for the weekend. I told him if he needs me I'm just a phone call away.
I think my H is starting to see what life's going to be like on his own!
Thanks M25, he is sure he wants to separate so any changes would just indicate a change in tempo, still a long way to go. Had a lot of eractic behavior until recently, similar to what you are seing, so got to expect could go that way again too.
As Puppy says the speak "fogbabble" - I really don't think they know what they want and certainly haven't thought through all the ramifications of their choices.
We'll get through this as stronger and even more amazing woman!
It's wonderful here at the lake. Feel like a weight has been weighted from my shoulders.
My oldest son told me yesterday before I left that my H had asked to go out to dinner with our son and his girlfriend (he had some gift certificate) and asked my son would that be weird? That couldn't of been too comfortable.
Had to call home for help with getting internet access here. Unfortunately, my H answered the phone (thought he'd be at work - apparently he gave everyone at the shop the day off). So I just asked to speak to my oldest son and didn't say anything else to my H. He seemed a little taken back (or maybe I want to think that). But he didn't even check in with us to see if we got done here OK. I thought he'd at least call our youngest son.
He wanted space - he's getting space! Feeling good - already completed a 3-mile walk this morning and am getting ready to do some weight work and other exercises. That's the one thing that stinks about getting older - the weight just doesn't come off as fast as it used to.
Anyway - I wasn't rude to my H just kept it businesslike and asked to speak to my son. That was the correct way to handle it right?
