W: I have something difficult to tell you. After many months of thinking about it and a long process, I told Daddy that we should get a divorce.
A: I don’t agree with Mommy, and this is not what I want. I still love her, but we’re going to have to live with her decision.
W: I love Daddy, too, as your father, but I no longer have the feelings I had when we got married that I think I need.
A: We aren’t divorcing you; we will each be there for you, but separately. I think this is terribly sad. It breaks my heart that you will have to go through this.
W: What you need to know is that you are the best parts of our lives. We love each of you more than anything, and that will NEVER change.
A: Whatever you are feeling, you have a right to feel (and to express), because NONE of this is your fault and no one deserves to experience divorce. I am so sorry.
IMO- some of this is too much info. That it breaks your heart that they have to go through this is a bit scary and foreboding, just think about it.
I think you are a man of many eloquent words. The bottom line is to get the facts out and let them know you are there for any questions or feelings that come up. I think you as a parent need to watch their responses and handle it accordingly rather than saying so much.
I hope I am making sense. My H and I did go see a child behaviorist (regarding telling the kids he would not be sleeping here anymore)...it was brutal and they cried. They knew by my silence that this was H's deal.
The feelings and processing have taken time and we have to know that it can be years and some kids just don't talk about it which IMO needs to be ok too.
