Rob, I usually take at least a day now to answer her emails - unless it has something to do with my son on the day I get her email. B doesn't seem anywhere close to wanting to live with a truce - and I wonder if that just won't happen until after we're finally divorced.
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I finally had to spell out to her in VERY CLEAR terms that not only would I not be treated like this, but if this is the type of adverse relationship she wanted to have, we can have it. However, I made sure to point out to her that this was a two-way street, so she can expect inflexibility from me going forward and that this was absolutely the wrong type of relationship to have for the benefit of our D. I made it clear to her that if the hostility continued, it would not be by my choice and the "blood would be on her hands and on her hands alone" as I'm no longer willing to play this sort of game. I made sure XW knew that any and all future correspondences sent by her that were hostile in any way, shape or form would not only be documented, but would not be replied to by me at all.
Hm...I've not gotten to this point yet - though it doesn't mean that it's not time...I guess the difference in your words is that you're not defending yourself - rather, you were setting boundaries. That's part of the problem with B - she did not grow up with boundaries - her father respects no one's boundaries - and she seems to have inherited his mo.
I'll let you know what comes of this...I'm sorry that you've already gone through a lot of this with someone so similar - and I always appreciate your input.
