My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

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MIchelle

the choice is yours about how you handle D
seeking an attorny to get the facts though is an excellent idea

You can comply to D
or you can stall it
some even contest it
but talk to the L--sometimes it is so expensive to drag it all out
MY L got 350- an hour--he was great but so costly

I have read to treat the D process like a business deal
I chose to stall it as long as possible
that worked for me to a point because I realized H was busting out business and had I not I may have lost the business and any means of support
so be realistic about your assets--this is so important and put H second to this for now
I was left with 2 kids..
and not working
so I tried to get as much property, support,money as possible
half way thru the D , I realized MY H was running our business into the ground and had created huge debt
he had spent so much money..on the oW

so I got control of the business and have restored it with my brothers help
now we all work together..I am H secretary( really)
so I personaaly would get everyrhing financially possible especially since he is moving
and afetr you get thru the hurdle of deciding how to handle D or seperation
you can decide how to handle H
continue with your DBing but know things get a little hairy during D with the L
I had the luxery of DB for over a year before H filed( I told him to file)
so do whatever you can to take care of yourself
find therapy and get support
the other side of the journey is amaxing for us LBS
the rewards of doing the work are huge for us
many of us find reaL HAPPINESS
r WITH ALL OTHER PEOPLE INCLING xh IMPROVE
we get it all --the inward stuff the peace the love
it is ours
so know this road is not for the weak..I believe we are called
and the lucky ones
peace