Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

Thanks you two. My parents are driving my son home from SC today due to BIL's death. Last night H said he didn't want to be here when they came, as they are staying overnight. Today he said he was going to his parent's house to be with his family. I said ok, you won't need to be here when Mom and Dad are here, I know you don't want to see them (or have them confront him). A few minutes later he comes in the bedroom yelling that he's pissed off cause that is not the reason he is going to his parents, it's because his brother just died and he wants to be with his family and he doesn't appreciate me saying that. I told him he's not talking to me so I really don't know what's going on. I tried to say I understand he wants to go to his parents but he's not listening.

I don't know. I'm mad, hurt, angry, sad...everything. I tried to think of a DBing statement (to say to H) but it's really hard right now.