Yeah, I'm from NoDak. I know how hard it is to envision your wife having a PA, but right now she's using you for her doormat. For all you know, she could be coming straight from the house of some guy she met at the bar (and slept with) and is using the house you share as a place to crash. Is that respectful to you? She doesn't want some guy that would accept that.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer