Thank you gucci, your advice to others maybe what saves my R. i'm not ignoring her, or being an @sshole, but i'm stopping being her friend through this.
That's one of the misconceptions I see here. Most of us view being a friend of let me fix it for you, let me take care of you, I'm sorry I'll change etc. You are being a true friend right now. You are showing your friend how you are to be treated, you respect yourself enough to have strong, healthy boundaries. As a friend you are letting her feel the consequences for her actions and not rescuing/enabling her. I think what you are doing is a very loving gesture to yourself and your wife. It just doesn't fit into the cultural idea of what friends are. You are handling it.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
