Treese you are right,you need to take care of you and your children. Not so sure about ow winning. What has she won? I really don't think there are any winners in D, affairs, etc.
My h too could possibly have a love child, so I completely understand your pain. Yes our lives have forever changed.
You will have to eventually accept your h and your situation for whatever it is. When you get to acceptance, you will allow yourself to move forward.
Hang in there! Hugs!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"