Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

[steady]

It doesn't look good, but nothing is set in stone.

See? There it is right there. It actually doesn't look like anything..it doesn't even exist except in your mind. This is you projecting negaatively. How do you really know what it looks like? (rhetorical question)

All event are actually neutral and it's how we 'perceive' (guess) what impact the current situation will have in our future is how we determine whether the event is actually good or bad. Like Shakespeare said: "Nothing is good or bad but our thinking that makes it so."

Here's a Zen story that fits in this vein:

We'll See...

There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.

"Such bad luck," they said sympathetically.

"We'll see," the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.

"How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.

"We'll see," replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.

"We'll see," answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.

"We'll see" said the farmer.