Hi Mat, How are you? All settled yet from the move? Those are so hard.
About a week ago I figured he had gotten the papers, so I called him about some tax returns. He had not gotten the papers, so I let the cat out of the bag. I was so hoping for him to find out about it by mail! Anyway he seemed a little surprised that I had filed. WTH??? I have not talked to him since then.
He and OW are still going strong.
I talked to a friend yesterday. Her husband told her that my H thinks I will get her to testify for me. Sounds like he is trying to stir things up. My friend told her H that Yoyo has never even said anything about me testifying, she hopes to settle all of this without a hearing. My friend said she was thinking to herself, with all of the info from the OW's divorce hearing that would be enough testimony. If you recall the OW's exH hired a PI and had video of their "meetings" at her house overnight.
My H earlier told this same man he didn't see any way they could remain friends as long as Yoyo and your wife are friends. He just wants to be able to bring his OW around them at their lake house. He thinks that the H will forbid his wife from being friends with me I guess. Doesn't matter, my friend can't stand the OW.
Oh well, just goes to show you how crazy the WAS are!!!! I'd say my stbxh is in a full blown MLC!!!!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I am sorry to hear that the craziness continues. I wonder if your H will be sooo attractive with only half the business? I am betting that neither one of them thinks you have the nerve to follow through(we all know better). It sounds as if you are doing well otherwise.
Thanks for stopping by my thread. I am slowly getting back to me. I really had no intention of talking to former beau about flirt guy but he was asking me where I was hoping to be, what I wanted to be doing, if I had anyone in mind sort of things and out it came. I didn't get mad at him or anything just said I felt as though there is something left undone there.
Oh and I agree your stbx and my ex are off in MLC created Lala land!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
There you are! I was beginning to wonder where you were. I am sorry that your H is being so foolish.
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He and OW are still going strong.
And that will be his ultimate undoing. I just don't get how our WAS can possibly think that they can ever trust another adulterer enough to have any sort of R with them. How can they even begin to trust each other? It's crazy.
Thanks for checking in. I've been staying busy. I'm going to the lake this weekend with stbxh's cousin and wife. Weird, huh? But you just can't stop friendships, can you? The wife and I are like sisters.
In 15 days I leave to spend 5 days at the beach with a friend. It will be the first trip I've ever taken that I just had to take care of myself. Wow!!!!
I met a man and he invited me to lunch. We happened to know several people in common. I went to lunch with him. He was very nice. We agreed it was a friend thing. Although later I received an email from him telling me thinking of my beautiful lips made it hard for him to keep remembering we are just friends. LOL
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
No worries here about me taking it slow. I just dipped my pinky toe... I'm definitely not ready for a relationship now. I figure as long as I get ticked off about H and OW I'm not ready. I have to get to the indifference stage. Getting close...but not quite there. I've got take to care of my own issues without getting involved with someone new. That would be a mess!
I am still not ready to date and it's been 2 years since H left. Had lunch with a former male co-worker and was quite surprised that he was trying to start something (and he's married!!!--UGH!!!) Haven't moved yet.....but soon. Maybe a new environment will give me a different perspective on dating. My D18 keeps asking if I'll ever date again.
