It's a hard thing to do, but consider no longer giving your wife top billing, the prime real estate in your mind. What makes you happy? What works for you? What gives you satisfaction? Let those bubble up to help bring balance.
When she p*sses you off.. send her blessings, good thoughts. It's a gift you give to yourself. I'd do that during the divorce with ex and I always felt calmer afterwards. It helps short circuit the anger.
These helped me.. find what keeps you in a good place to make good decisions.
