I do not disagree on the farming stuff. Because of H's farm work, we got back around $10K in taxes the past 3 years. Now, technically, of course, he had to SPEND a lot of money first! But yes, depreciating the cattle themselves along with the equipment has been very nice...
I have stopped giving him any advice/grief over cattle and cattle related spending. With the amount of money he makes a year, he can afford to buy that stuff. He is just disorganized bill-wise so he gets late notices and late fees. That is why I took over all bill-paying once we got married. That and I was a sub. teacher with more free time to pay bills!
The part that concerns me is that my sister the lawyer has told me (she told me over a year ago actually), and the attorney I consulted also told me, that in our state they will line up all the assets/income for each person, and line up all the debt. Then they try to come up with something equitable.
So although Dan has a lot of income, he also has a lot of debt, which impacts the financials of our situation should we divorce. It is true that the Home Depot can't really come after me for a card in Dan's name, but Dan's debt there is factored in to our proceedings. Make sense??
I am not sure where I am on the Dan department. I have raced my way through the entire "Boundaries in Marriage" book. All I can say, in short, is LIFE-CHANGING. I felt like I understood Oprah for a minute there. Not that I watch much Oprah but I have seen a few episodes where she is promoting a book, a lifestyle plan, etc where she gushes about "a-ha moments" and "life-changing" impact.
That is what this book is to me. I actually have found it to be the most influential book I have read other than the Bible. I know that is a lot to say about one book. But, along with the other, general "Boundaries" book, it is so clear about how best to live an honest, authentic life.
I have always had a hard time saying no to people, enforcing limits, etc etc. And this book explains why that happens sometimes, things like family of origin, fear of losing love/rejection, being the 'bad guy', etc. It is all stuff I should have known, but didn't.
In the marriage book it talks about a wife who always tried to 'love her husband out of' his bad moods, anger, unhappiness, etc. And you can't! Which I knew, but still, to see it written out in front of you is something different. For me, anyway.
But yes, depreciating the cattle themselves along with the equipment has been very nice...
Not that I watch much Oprah but I have seen a few episodes where she is promoting a book, a lifestyle plan, etc where she gushes about "a-ha moments" and "life-changing" impact. 
