The big fight last night was that I had been trying to do some research into the criminal record of OM in case she leaves and I want to file a restraining order to prevent contact between OM and my kids and she found out by reading my email. She was pretty angry, and said the kids can be around whomever she decides to be with, etc etc. I told her that I hoped it wouldn't go that far.
You are pushing her right into the arms of the OM. You must stop this before it is too late!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
