There are so many similarities. He is definitely obsessed with his body image. He has been going out a lunch time to catch a few rays. He also says we could easily get remarried. He says being with one person all your life is just no realistic. He is going through with the vasectomy on July 15th. He will go through with it because they are going to put him completely under so hey, he was almost relieved.
Did you DB? Did you have success? Honestly at this point the DB'ing had worked but he comments "who is that girl and where has she been"? And than, the "it's too late" people cannot change and it won't last. He keeps saying I am too good for him and deserve better. At first he would get as emotional as I would and hoped things would work out; however, he would never ever just talk to a counselor not even on the phone for 30 minutes. Absolutely states there is nothing anyone can illuminate for us, if we couldn't make it work together than we've got to split. Of course, predicts by fall I'll be much happier alone.
Ahhh, back to my DB point. I do agree DB techniques are positive and the main thing is that they teach you to take care of yourself, to explore yourself and to reach the conclusion that you need to always like and take care of numero uno first. However, I do question DB techniques when it reaches this stage where the fantasy land they are living in and the justifying they do is such twisted logic, is there a chance they are going to notice "us" and feel remorse. I get the feeling at this stage of the roller coaster they are going for a ride. I usually would fall off the wagon and within 24 hours could be DB'ing, but this time I am quite low. I am going to contact an attorney just to know my rights and get my financial paperwork in order.
I totally hurt that he has directed so much anger at you, but the anger I would still suspect maybe guilt. My best guess is he is not all that happy either and getting married again so soon may be a disaster for him. It is good he talks with your son but that doesn't make it easy to be ignored.
You sound so strong and I would really like to hear more of your story and watch for more parallels.
Thanks, Michele
M 42 H 41 Married 1993 Together 1986 No Kids Bomb 5/16/09 Wants D, not yet filed
