I hear so much from everyone, each has an opinion or experience. I can only judge what is working or not working.
I personally understand the intention behind the rule, but with M I think it is different - I go back and forth between a person in recovery needing to learn to take back control over their life and all that goes with it - and not overwhelming them with the ruins of the past and the weight of things in the present.
Right now, I mostly avoid long discussions or disagreements b/c most are not a priority. Important things I work for a compromise which usually comes easy now. Surprisingly, most things are unimportant that come up which shows us both that we used to argue about unimportant things and mostly agree on the important stuff.
