For now, don't bring it up again. Give yourself time to process everything. As you've said, it is a LOT! It won't do much damage to just leave him be as he is for a bit longer, while you keep reading.
Just rest assured that once you can CLEARLY communication what it is EXACTLY that you want from him, he will likely be more than happy to give it to you! But before you spend a bit more reflection time and lose some of the resentment, you will not be able to clearly communicate it to him.
Another week or two, and you will be a lot further along than today, as you will have absorbed a lot and will not be so overwhelmed.
You are normal. You and your H's issues are normal. They are probably somewhat easily fixed, compared to so many other people's sitch.
Hang in there with us a bit longer, and keep reading everything!
