I went back and forth with AA and C's about working on marriage...The "standard" for AA is a year but it was pointed out to me that is 1)a guideline and 2) for new R. Also a friend in AA pointed out to me in the Big Book about all the stories of people rekindling their M much much sooner.
This is what caused me and my first sponsor to split. He was a by the book 25 year sober and didn't even want me to think about my W. Who knows now maybe he was right but the way he would try and get through was very demeaning. We split amicably and still talk to this day, he even told me I was probably right and not let the outcome of my M make me double think that.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
