OK - you did a great job at explaining both. I think I understand your position and your feelings on both matters.
The good news is - based on both of your answers to these things, it is evident that you really only lack communication with him. You haven't been able to communicate your unhappiness on these two things in a way that he has understood yet. Once you do, I think he will be more than happy to jump on board to a better "way" of handling your sex life.
What did you think about my description of "why" women provoke men into showing us they are stronger than we are? Did it resonate?
