I understand where you're coming from. We all originally come here with the hope of saving our marriage, but for some of us sadly enough, it's not to be. It would be nice if things worked out everytime, but some of us are not given the option no matter how hard we may try. I don't see you as looking for an excuse but rather looking for support to get through a tough time, because I think you already know the answer.
So I'll tell you what I do know. If your husband is still playing and not fully committed to you, then chances are, the first time he gets the chance he WILL do it again. If he were through his journey, if nothing else, he would not still be looking. Besides that, he's playing you and lying to you. This is not a man who is looking for redemption. Not by a longshot.
I hope that you are not discouraged or feel as if you shouldn't be here because you don't feel that you marriage is salvagable. I would venture to guess that 3 quarters of us are here for support even after we came to the realization that our marriages were over.
