How will my wife notice that I am changing when I do not speak to her at all?
This is your problem, the changes aren't for her there for YOU. If you are only changing to fix your M, you'll just go back to the same person you were if you W comes back.
Understand there is NOTHING you can do to change your W, NOTHING. She has to want to change, just like you.
Volleydog is right. You have to change you for YOU, if you are just changing for the M, those changes won't stick when your W comes back, and you'll end up right to where you were.
You have to get it through your mind - you cannot control what your W thinks or does. You only have control over YOU. You change she will notice, as if you are under a microscope she will pick up on the smallest changes. It doesn't matter if you are talking\living together or not. Do you think that by talking to her that you can tell her that you changed? It doesn't work that way, she has to see those changes, and they have to be consistent changes. Not just changes for 2 weeks and then back to the way it was before, yes they will notice and they do observe everything.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story
