How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Wanted to post some new thoughts here in the infidelity section so that I don't start any other new threads...

So it's been over a month since I confronted the therapist, she lost her job, H says he's done and the marriage is over, now moving out most likely in the beginning of August despite my willingness to forgive, work on the marriage, etc.... I don't see any indication that he's still seeing the therapist and he says the EA is a moot point b/c he has been unhappy for a long time. (Uh, this from the man who bought a brand-new house with me just 1 1/2 years ago and wanted to "start our life over.") I know, I know, it's all affair script. Could it really be that the EA is over? Should I contact the therapist's husband to expose their EA and get it to end for sure? I don't think it will make much difference, unless H is still in contact with her. I guess my fear is that, if it is over between them, it won't make any difference for my sitch. And, if they are still seeing each other, the OW's husband might go postal and come after my H.

Anyone have any advice about what to do? I feel like, if he is still in the affair cloud, this might be my last hope. But I'm scared...