I Love You But...

[eternaloptimist]

Thanks, Puppy! How are you? Always great advice from you. I really do feel like I've been "doing the right thing" for weeks now. I just need to "reframe" all of this in a more positive way. So to make my day a bit brighter, I'm going to list some of my accomplishments to date:

1) I didn't let H intimidate ME into moving out since he's the one who wants out. It would have caused so many unnecessary emotional and scheduling disruptions to our son's school, housing situation, etc. not to mention my finances and job situation. Now that I think about it, how inconsiderate of our son and his ability to cope with so many sudden changes would that have been? I'm so glad that I am advocating for what is best for our son when clearly my H is largely thinking about himself.

2) I didn't let H intimidate me into keeping our son in daycare and denying him going back to his private preschool. So glad that I didn't cave in on that b/c after talking to an attorney, any "extra" money we would have saved by putting him in daycare vs. preschool was NOT money my husband would have been able to put in his pocket anyway.

3) I confronted the OW/therapist in public and then she lost her job b/c someone else heard me and, in turn, did the right thing.

4) I am taking our son to a play therapist (despite H's initial opposition to this) to help him cope with everything we've already been through and to help him learn new ways to cope with a future separation.

5) I am GALing...making plans to have fun, writing down my concerns with an eye towards "structured problem-solving," something that I know I am good at doing.

Thanks for all of your support!