Separated for 3 weeks now

[Ready2Change]

Hi,

You sound like you know what you need to do. All the books and information I have read point to the same things:

1) I need to be happy (alone or with someone). I need to do things that make me happy. I can not put my happiness into someone elses hands. So I do things that make me happy.

2) Feel my feelings. Understand and trust my feelings. I chose when I drink. Alcohol just numbs the feelings that will come out later anyways, so I limit my drinking to FUN times. Things will TRIGGER Stuffed feelings and it is possible to over react. I am now very aware of this.

3) Forgiveness is a very powerful tool for healing. The more I forgive everything that I feel some has done to ME, the better I feel. (The radical forgiveness book is great)


Anyways, keep up the good work. Keep working on YOU. You have full control of your thoughts words and actions. Positive changes WILL be noticed by spouse.