So, H has pretty much admitted that he is relishing in getting attention from another woman/women and showing me that he has his mojo (paraphrasing).
He has been provocative and I think I finally understand that he is pulling a big neener neener neener. IYKWIM.
I will get to the boundaries I set later (gotta run soon).
But, what Hs behavior tells me is that a) he still cares about what I think and staying engaged with me and there is some remote possibility of healing IF he gets this out of his system and sees that I respect him and understand his value (so that's a big if)...AND b) hurting me is not only acceptable but necessary (he has to show me and that tends to hurt) and using the kids to do it is not beyond him (and I don't mean him hurting the kids, I mean, for example that the reality that having my kids away from me this much hurts me is a-ok or that they are being immersed in a world that I loathe etc).
So, on to my Emotional strategy And my Financial/logistical/marital status strategy...
